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Before anyone gets tied up, you and your partner(s) need to have a negotiation about what's going to happen. And in that negotiation, you have to talk about consent, Yin says. "You have to know how you're going to actually explore," they say. You could start exploring bondage in an experiential way, where no still means no. But you could also try a theme where struggle is part of what makes bondage erotic. So, you'll need to talk to your partner up front about what you want.

"It's not that you just say yes to bondage and then that means that you're saying yes to everything that happens after you're in bondage," Yin says. There are multiple things you and your partner have to consent to, whether you're the top or the bottom in the bondage situation. But especially if you're the bottom (the one being tied up). Once someone is in bondage, Yin says, they might enter something called "subspace" and might no longer feel comfortable negotiating what they do and don't want to try. So it's essential to have negotiation and consent up front.

Part of the negotiation process is establishing a safe word (or multiple safe words) with your partner. In BDSM, a safe word is something other than "no," "don't," "stop" or any other word you'd usually use to tell someone to slow down. Because those words tend to be part of the play. "If you want to play with those roles and power dynamics, language can start changing meaning," Yin says. Instead, use a word that usually wouldn't come up in the context of sex. For beginners, Yin suggests "yellow" and "red." More visit: How to do bondage

"'Yellow' meaning that you're getting to your edge where you know something doesn't feel right or that this is basically as much as you can take," they say. "Red" meaning that you're totally done with the scene and you want to be untied.

Knowing your bodies (and minds).

Does your partner have bad knees? Are you prone to back aches? Does anyone have diabetes or epilepsy? These are all things you and your partner should discuss before anyone gets tied up, because where you place the rope might exacerbate any of those problems.

And mental health is just as important as physical health. "If somebody has gone through trauma, language can become a trigger when you're playing," Yin says. Some people enjoy what's called "slut play," which is essentially dirty talk that uses words generally considered humiliating or degrading. But, for some, certain words can bring up insecurities. Yin, for example, feels totally fine using words like "slut," "submissive," and "dirty dog" in their play. But can't stand saying or hearing the word "stupid."



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